
Dear Coach Amy,
I am looking to go on a bus tour with a travel group this summer. I usually like to travel with my girlfriend. We travel well together and I enjoy her company. However, I really am interested in meeting a man. Do you think traveling with my girlfriend will hurt my chances of doing so? - Torn in Toledo
Dear Torn,
You have to decide if you want to travel with your girlfriend and know you can have a companion during the trip or take the more risky, adventurous road where as you go by yourself and see what can happen. Let's discuss each scenario:
When you go with your girlfriend, you will most likely be looked at as a unit. It would be intimidating for most men to approach you and he may not feel he can break up the duo. So if he wants to sit next to you on the bus, or take an excursion with you alone- he may be reluctant to ask. He may assume you are very happy with being with your girlfriend. Bottom line you may not seem approachable.
However, if you set ground rules with your girlfriend on how you want to be on the trip, it may work. I traveled with a girlfriend on a trip. We set it up that we would not stick together like glue and that we were free to mingle. She ended up hanging out with a different group than I did. We connected at night in our room. So if you don't look joined at the hip, then it can work.
If you travel on your own, you will be forced to meet new people. You may sit alone on the bus and that gives you a better chance of a guy approaching you. Or, if you see someone you are interested in getting to know, you may ask him to join you for lunch or some other activity during your open time.
So it all depends on what you want out of the trip and how you plan out your intentions with your girlfriend. Your decision also rests on the personality of your girlfriend and how independent she is.
No matter what you decide, have a wonderful trip,
Coach Amy
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